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What is Relational Life Therapy

Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terrence Real, employs a unique approach to therapy that focuses on fostering deep understanding and facilitating lasting change.


One hallmark of RLT is the use of loving confrontation, where therapists compassionately confront clients with the difficult truths about their negative behaviors. This direct yet caring approach helps clients recognize how their actions may be harming their relationships, fostering trust and openness rather than resistance.

In our RLT sessions, couples embark on a journey of healing and transformation in three key steps:

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Step 1: Insight & Awareness

During the initial 90-minute intake session, we delve deep into the dynamics of your relationship, gaining insight into recurring patterns and underlying issues. Through open dialogue and compassionate guidance, we help you uncover the root causes of your struggles and develop awareness around how they impact your relationship.

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Step 2: Healing & Transformation

With newfound awareness, we swiftly address negative behaviors and patterns, guiding you through a process of understanding and overcoming them. A unique aspect of RLT is the incorporation of deep trauma and inner child work within the presence of your partner. This approach allows individuals to delve into their past experiences in a supportive environment, fostering deeper connection and growth as a couple.

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Step 3: Relational Skills For Life

Equipped with powerful tools and insights gained through RLT, we empower you to continue building authentic, healthy relationships long after therapy ends. By developing essential relational skills, you and your partner can navigate future challenges with confidence, creating lasting change that enriches your relationship for years to come.

Nidia Valadez,

Meet Nidia Valadez, M.S. LPC-S, trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the Owner of Spring Oaks Counseling, LLC. With her expertise and compassionate approach, Nidia is dedicated to helping couples navigate their relationship challenges and achieve lasting fulfillment.

Nidia offers a range of counseling services tailored to meet the unique needs of each couple:

1. Weekly Couples Sessions: Engage in regular, ongoing therapy sessions with Nidia to explore and address relationship dynamics, communication issues, and personal growth goals. ($200-$275/ session. No insurance taken.)

2. 2-Day Intensive Sessions: Dive deep into your relationship during intensive therapy sessions designed to provide focused, in-depth exploration and resolution of key issues over a concentrated timeframe. ($2,500.00 No insurance taken.)

3. RLT Bootcamps: Join Nidia for immersive RLT Bootcamps, where couples engage in transformative experiences aimed at building essential relational skills and fostering deeper connection. ($1,100.00 per couple or $550.00 for an individual. No insurance taken.)

No matter where you are in your relationship journey, Nidia is here to provide the guidance and support you need to create a relationship that thrives. Reach out today to begin your journey towards a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.

Additionally, the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) modality, known for its focus on confronting relationship dynamics and fostering personal responsibility, is also unsuitable for the following severe and complex issues:  domestic violence, suicide prevention, personality disorders, or alcohol and drug abuse that requires inpatient care.

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